How to Win Friends & Change your World

We all change every day. Do we want to get smarter, wiser and stronger or just random changes? We think we know how make better decisions as we get older. And yet we always do irrational predictable stuff. The Way to come around this by choosing your surroundings and the people you spend the most time with. So How do you get new friends that you can spend more time with? And how do we design our environment so it help us to make better decisions? 

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 How to Win Friends and Influence People [Start by Changing how you treat other people]

Today I did it. Bought the audiobook How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on Audible and started listen to it. It has been on my to-do list for a long time. I just heard a good interview with Scott Dinsmore on the Podcast Knowledge for Men (episode 39) that it was one of his favourites books. So that finally triggered me to do it. I have read the sum up lists on Wikipedia and thought that, that was it. But no. The book is full with so much insight that it is a marvel for being written in 1937. And there in lies the great mystery.

If they knew back then, by empirical evidence, that it’s great to follow all this advice. Then why aren’t we all doing it today, almost 80 years later. Why aren’t these findings taught to every kid in every school?

Well, I don’t have an answer for that. What we can do is start talking about it and teaching it today.

How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Here is the first list that I wrote about in my first famous blogpost: Why are we so Groupish? Get a feel for it and if you want more just find the book yourself.

Ways to Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

How You Really Make Decisions [Mental Shotgun, Confirmation bias and so on…]

I also found the english version of the documentary that we saw here last monday in Sweden with Dan Ariely and Daniel Kahneman about all the ways that our human brain makes thinking errors. Go se it in english here from BBC Horizon: How You Really Make Decisions.

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Daniel Kahneman – How You Really Make Decisions

Since there are som many ways that we can do things the wrong way there is only one way to make things better. To set up the surrounding world so that is helps us and not sets us back. Design institutions, cities, laws, work, processes so that they avoid all the fallacies of the brain. And there is a lot of them. Over 145 to Kahneman’s counting.

So If changing yourself is so hard. Change your surroundings and the people you spend time with instead. Design your environment and what you come in contact with on a daily basis. Then you will come along way — Michael Sillion

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If I put myself in new places and around new people, will I change?

Set yourself up For The Win [Architect the world around you]

Today I also found 2 great clips from The School of Life in London. Check them out:

Roman Krznaric – How to Find Fulfilling Work

John-Paul Flintoff – How to Change the World

Change isn’t hard. You do it every second. You just have to come aware of your actions. And it really helps if you have a vision, a goal or a mission to align your actions to. So go out and change yourself and the world around you so as it best align with the future that is your Destiny(nation). — Michael Sillion

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Holistic Thinking Ninja

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Overview Effect [We need more Explorers and Artist]

What can we do to make the world a better place? There is so much that we take for granted on Planet Earth. And there is so many better things that we can spend our time and resources on here. I will give you some of my perspective on what is important on Planet Earth. What we can do is: 1. Create Shared Visions. 2. Create better Stories. 3. Do more and better Science, Exploration and Art. 4. Watch the Moon together.

I think we can start from there. What are your thoughts on how to create a better future together?

Pale Blue Dot [What is our home?]

Tonight was an awesome night!

Thanks to Christer Hellberg’s blog I started the evening watching Brian Cox talking about our Why we need Explorers & our place in the Universe. He finishes of with the Pale Blue Dot picture, and then he reads this text from Carl Sagan below.

Brian Cox

Brian Cox – Why we need Explorers & our place in the Universe

From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of any particular interest. But for us, it’s different. Consider again that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that in glory and triumph they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner. How frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity – in all this vastness – there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known, so far, to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment, the Earth is where we make our stand. It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.

Carl Sagan

So lo and behold. What do think happens later tonight? I have just put my daughters to sleep. I’m going downstairs to make some tea for me and me girl, who are going to watch the movie Gravity together tonight. I step outside to watch the bright Full Moon that stands just under the brightest Mars we’ve had in years. I see a large shining object moving slowly east across the sky passing just above Mars, and then it fades away into the Earth-shadow. A Space Station. On this very night? What are the odds? On such a perfect viewing the very same night of Brian Cox and Gravity? But it doesn’t stop there…

“Nothing is more fatal to the progress of the human mind than to presume that our views of science are ultimate, that our triumphs are complete, that there are no mysteries in nature, and that there are no new worlds to conquer.” — Humphrey Davy

The Full Moon and Mars in view of my house with the Space Station just having passed by Mars

The Full Moon and Mars in view of my house with a Space Station just having passed by Mars

My brain can’t do anything else but apply agencies like fate and destiny to events like these. This was also the night for a Blood Moon and Lunar Eclipse viewable from North & South America. Nothing here in Sweden but just the thought if this happening on the same date as well makes it even more epic in my mind.

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Our brains perceive the world on a Human Scale, and interpret those perceptions in terms of what is – or sometimes was – important to us — Ian Stewart, Jack Cohen & Terry Pratchett, The Science of Discworld IV

The Overview Effect [The Earth is our only home]

“The actual experience exceeds all expectations and is something that’s hard to put to words… It sort of reduces things to a size that you think everything is manageable…. All these things that may seem big and impossible … We can do this. Peace on Earth – No problem. It gives people that type of energy … that type of power, and I have experienced that.” — Anousheh Ansari, Space Tourist

Have you ever been into space? Probably not. Only well-trained mission specialist and some Space Tourists has gone up so far. And what they all do, for hours and hours up there at the time, is Earth Gazing. When they watch down on our blue round spaceship orbiting our star, they all get a profound feeling of the importance, that we do right by our only home in the Galaxy. It is still the only place, where all the life we know off in the universe can survive. And we human are in no way separated from life on Earth. We are part of a system we cannot survive without. This feeling they get, it’s a kind of Awe of Nature only bigger and more profound. It’s called The Overview Effect. This feeling of pure beauty is hard to describe if not experienced first hand by our human sensory system. We can get a glimpse of it through movies like Gravity on a big screen but nothing like the real deal.

Some say the best thing about going to the moon was getting a picture and view of Earth from the moon.

If all humans experience this effect, we should have a different view of how we treat each other and how we treat the system of life around us. This is of course not doable in near foreseeable future. Maybe in the future we are able to get to a place where we can build large Space Elevators that can take us there. And here is a bit of a paradox. In order we to get to that place we all need the feeling that place will give us.

“There was a startling recognition that the nature of the universe was not as I had been taught… I not only saw the connectedness, I felt it.… I was overwhelmed with the sensation of physically and mentally extending out into the cosmos. I realized that this was a biological response of my brain attempting to reorganize and give meaning to information about the wonderful and awesome processes that I was privileged to view.” — Edgar Mitchell, Sixth Man on the Moon

There is still hope though. Very soon some very rich people are going to be able to on space tourism. They will all be able to experience this feeling first hand. And this elite of superrich people also has som real power to make change in the world. Our hope here is that when they get this feeling they will start using their power and resources to make change for the better of Life on Earth.

The Human Tribe(s) [What can we do?]

What can we mere mortals do here down on Earth then? Well I think there some core things that we can do. I have talked about most of them before. Here will try to sum them up.

Shared Visions

We need shared Visions for the Future that we all can pursue together. We must all have our own personal vision of the future in order to walk on a path with meaning and purpose. When we then sum up these visions they add upp to mush larger vision that is bigger than all of us. We just need a real leader how put forth the agenda for us. So that we all can connect ot it on a personal level. That’s how you put a Man on the Moon or build a Stonehenge.

A Shared Vision is an ongoing conversation between people.
It’s not what the Vision is. It’s what the Vision does. — Peter Senge

Sci-fi & Storytelling

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We all enjoy a good story. Our brain is literally a storytelling machine. It stores and communicates everything in patterns. These patterns are then put together in larger Meta-patterns that we call stories. Most things we put into our story we buy wholehearted without questioning. Sure it’s only fiction you may say. The fact is that to our brain everything his fiction. It’s only our small conscious part of our brain that pretends it can tell the difference. To the rest of the brain it’s all stories and emotions.

So is this a bad thing then? No, on the contrary. If we want to change the world and build a better society Storytelling and Science-fiction is the ultimate tool to implant new ideas and visions of a future we want to have. we are just nut using it to its full potential. What if the makers of big blockbuster Sci-Fi movies realised and took their responsibility and made epic stories with meaning and visions we could use? I discuss this more in: Elysium [What we can Imagine –> We can Build] and Pacific Grim [A Rim Vision of the Future].


More and Better Science and Art

We need to commit more of our time and resources to science. It’s a primary goal of the Human race. To know more about ourself and the Universe. With science we don’t change the world. We only change how we perceive the world and think about it. As new facts become known or old one becomes obsolete we will ever so slightly change our ability to perceive the world. There will never be complete consensus on how we or the universe tics. There will however be a pretty good picture if it. We can all help in painting this picture. Many more of us can become Scientist, Explorers and Artist. Let’s do more and better Science, Exploration and Art.

”The cosmos is also within us, We’re made of star stuff. We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.” — Carl Sagan


#MoonWatch and #Stargaze

BloodMoon

As tonight was the night of the Blood Moon it’s only fitting that we talk about the effect that watching the moon together has on us. For all my life I’ve gone out to watch the moon at night. Mostly the when it’s a full moon or those nice new moon dusk evenings when the moon is just a sliver of its true self and you can see its whole round form barely visible. Most of these times I have been alone. Not by choice. Mostly out of no-one else seeing the fascination as I do. So when I finally found lots of other people doing all aver the world via Twitter, I did feel that there was hope for humanity after all. So does so few people do it? Most of us has just forgotten why we should. Because it has big effects on us when we MoonWatch together. What if there is no moon then? Just going out into the wild away from the city lights and watching the stars is a great thing to do. Just stand there and ponder how small we are and how short our time here on planet earth is together. Hug someone and tell them what is really important in life.

“When you look at the Moon, you think, ‘I’m really small. What are my problems?’ It sets things into perspective. We should all look at the Moon a bit more often.” — Alain de Botton

So if you ever get the chance again, see a Lunar Eclipse with someone you love or new friend. On larger scale we should all go see a Solar Eclipse together, like the one in 2017. I’m already planing a trip to the US with my friends to see the big one in 2017. It’s just a week before Burning Man, I think. So it’s going to be an epic trip.

Will you join me?

Watching celestial objects and events gives us a much-needed perspective on life on Planet Earth. For things we take for granted and for things we should be amazed at.

Hug someone and tell them what is really important in life.

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

What Is Love? [Her the Movie] #Blogg100

Why does Movies affect us more than we know? They can enlighten the way we think about ourselves and our future. What many of us know about love and how we should live together we get from Movies and TV-Series. So finally we get a movie like Her, who takes responsibility in awaken our thoughts on the matter. What can it teach us about love and how we should live together in the future? Find out below as my mind wanders on the subject 🙂

Do You Feel Alone? [Is More Love and Companionship the Answer?]

Her the Movie

Her the Movie – The heart is not like a box that gets filled up – It expands in size the more you love

We humans are social creatures by nature. It’s what makes us human. We are made for living together sharing food and stories with each others. Modern brain science shows that it’s hardwired into our brains. It’s makes us feel good when help others. Most of us don’t like being alone and yet our modern world seems designed in many ways to keep us apart. Especially the notion that we should live only with our significant other and maybe some children. Or just alone by ourselves, like how many people do in our big modern cities. And yet, we are designed to live in a small or a large Tribe in so many ways.

Some of us has made it work, to live together with others. Many of rest of us feel very alone in our lives and in our decisions. This become very apparent during Christmas. The guilt and the loneliness we try to smother by consuming ever more stuff. Many of us tries to drown our Social Pain in Alcohol or Drugs. The Mental Care institutes are ever so crowded around the holidays, filled with human tragedy. And it’s going in the wrong direction. We now know that Social Pain is as real to the brain as physical pain. The old myth that we can just shake it of, is no longer valid and truly busted. Thanks to modern science and MRI scans we now know that large parts of our brain are wired to keep us in the social game. So what is the opposite of Social Pain and being alone? Is it Love and Companionship? What can we do to get better at this Social Game?

What do you think?

Decisions, Decisions [Why are we so bad at them?]

Human are also especially bad at making crucial decisions alone. We all need help. The Brain is very prone to make irrational emotional decisions and make up a logical rational explanation long after the decision is made. Sometimes we only have an explanation when we get asked about why we did what we did. We also hold things sacred. And around things we hold sacred, we are especially bad at making informed decisions. Here we all need help. Preferable from people that do think alike to avoid group thinking. This also a reason why we should spend more time together. So that we can be there for each other.

So ask for help the next time you are making a tough decision.

Are you Her? [The past is just a story we tell ourselves] 

The movie HER by Spike Jonze is a very fascinating story about love and loneliness. The setting is near future where living together or alone is just as complex or even more so than today. Check out some of the background to the movie here: Spike Jonze Imagines the Future of Intelligence, Mobile Design, Love and Pants in “HER” and The Past is Just a Story We Tell Ourselves. There are many questions that pop into my head during this move. And non get any real answer. They are just for us the Audience to ponder on. The questions I ponder on are:

1. Are we okay with living on our own? [Does just intellectual companionship suffice?]

Yes. We probably are. Intellectual stimuli are something most of us get to little of. It’s something many of us crave more of. Even though some parts of the brain is lazy, other parts can’t resist excitement if feels when getting a proper intellectual dialog going.

Her

No. She is a fictional construct, whereas I am a virtual entity. But we can still be friends.

Theodore in Her thinks he has found a perfect relationship with the AI called Samantha in the beginning. It’s just a little awkward when he should tell others about it, that might not understand. It’s like Raj in the episode The Beta Test Initiation of Big Bang Theory season 5. Raj has extreme trouble talking to women. So he finds true excitement when he gets an iPhone 5 with Siri and starts a relationship with her. So long as he is alone with Siri it’s fine but it becomes social awkward when they should socialize with other people.

Theodore on the other hand finds out everyone else is doing it too, having a virtual relationship with their AI. I think it could be an interesting companionship for everyone. Especially with those who has trouble forming real world relationships. But her lies also the real danger. Maybe now they have no reason at all to meet real people. With the right mindset it can probably be give us better social skills. And we all need that. Can it be Empathy training for those who need it the most? Yes, as long as it doesn’t replaces all other real world relationships. We need those too. It doesn’t replace them. It just complements them, I think.

We need the physical touch too, that generates oxytocin in our bodies. The brain is to hardwired for interaction with other humans or even other mammals for us to ignore the positive effects of living together. Sharing life and touching each other. So could we live in mental companionship with AI or a true online relationship while getting other social stimuli from other real persons? Like a mix? Probably, but it would be very hard balancing act to conduct. So is it worth giving a try? If we do nothing to conduct our future, we will probably get there soon. Should we?

2. How should we then design tomorrows cities and societies? [Are we ready for the cramming?]

Her The Movie - Designing our future cities for a better social life

Her The Movie – Designing our future cities for a better social life

We just love living in social tribes. That why so many of us move to, or live in cities. We are just not very good at designing these lives in the city. Up until know most of our living has been without any design thinking. Many of us end up alone in the cities. The “Free Market” takes non of this into consideration when cramming us so close together, yet so separated by walls. And it’s not sustainable either. With every one of us having so many recourses by ourselves, without sharing them.

Let’s design our future cities so that they enables a better social life with more love & empathy and give room for a health life — Michael Sillion

And it’s now a theory, that even the very first cities from ten thousand years ago where only able to survive and flourish, thanks to the invention of beer. With so many people living together without a plan or oversight we are just hellbent on getting in each other’s faces. Alcohol solved some part of that problem by making us more social and tolerant of each other.

Now we know better what makes us tic and what makes us sting each other. It’s a very interesting and social science will continue to evolve us into insights, about how we should live together. With so many of us bunching up, shouldn’t we use our new knowledge to design better ways of living together? I defiantly think we should. We can’t leave it just to chance and the economic forces of a market economy. The life and the future is not about profit. We need to take charge, like some cities all over the world has already done.

Maybe we all need our little cave where we can be alone for a while. But we also need new and better campfires where we can huddle up, share a meal and a conversation. Watch the stars and the moon. Engulf in fantasies about the past and the future together, using our favorite storytelling. And in all the excitement we can play great games and sports together. Sharpening both mind and body. We should even engulf in spiritual and energetic dance together. Thus turning on the Hive-Switch in our minds, binding us ever closer together.

3. What is Love? [Baby don’t hurt me, Baby don’t hurt me, No more]

Peter Sage on Love – Being someones significant other.

Yes, what is love? Peter Sage gives a great definition on London Real

Love is being someones significant other — Peter Sage

The definition of significant being: Separate from. Different too. Unique.
So total focused unconditional presence is what you should have in mind. Not two half circles that complete each other. It is two whole circles that are attracted to each other. Before you can truly love someone else, you must first find and complete yourself. And it’s also a paradox. As no one is never complete. The journey never ends. So is true love impossible or just slightly improbable? I think it’s something you should always strive towards and never reach.

Don’t be a boat that tries to carry someone. Be a lighthouse and harbour to light their path and provide comfort and understanding.

What we can do to make any relationship better is to make it Active Constructive. When someone close to you give you good news you can choose to respond in enthusiastic positive way. You also should try to keep a positive Losada Ration. More than not you should have positive conversations with your partner.

4. What can we do to change all this? [Let’s get social]

We are now entering a new era of a Social Society. We are just seeing the seeds of this thanks to the Internet and Social Media. This new Society will not come automatically. We need to help creating it, for it to become true. I can easily go in the wrong direction or go away entirely if we are not careful. Indeed some parts of society already are. It’s very interesting to listen to the thoughts of Matthew Liberman, Dov Siedman, Brené Brown and Daniel Goleman all from the RSA podcast. They all have different things to say about Era of Social and Empathy. And yet you can connect the dots between them. It all combines well with what Peter Sage says above about moving into a creative entrepreneurial future together. Go ahead and give one of them a listen 🙂

Her the Movie - Let's hack the Future

Her the Movie – Let’s hack the Future

Hack the Source Code [Create the Future]

We can’t just redo our lives over and over again until we get it right like in movies like Goundhog Day and Source Code. We have to make up for our mistakes along their way. But if we are smart about or actions and learn quickly from our own and others mistakes, we can Hack Life to the better. Listen to what other wise people have to say and hack out our own path through the wilderness. Bring along their tools, and use them in your own way.

So don’t hasten to judge someone else. Try to listen to them and understand them instead.

The best quote from Her the Movie is:

The past is just a Story we tell ourselves — Samantha

Don’t dwell and focus on the past. No good will come from it. Forgive and move on. Because: The Future is also a Story we tell ourselves. It shapes the Path we set out to travel on. Surround yourself with people who are on the same journey and you will be much more likely to get there. We create our own future. If we want more Love in this world we just have to Hack it in a smart way to get it.

Lets hack life for more Love & Empathy!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

[Images courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures]

Busande Barn [#LLAP] #Blogg100


Tanken som slog mig i helgen var att. Allt som vi och våra bran upplever påverkar och formar oss! Så vad händer när någon klankar ner på oss när vi har som roligast och  är som mest uppspelta? Rinner det bara av oss i stundens upphetsning eller sätter det djupa spår?

Ha inte så förbaskat skoj!

I helgen var jag hemma med mina 2 döttrar hos en ny vän här i Varberg som har 3 barn i ungefär samma ålder. Det var första gången som barnen träffades. Det tog en liten stund för dom att komma igång. Sen var det full fart med springande och tjutande runt i huset och runt sofforna där vi vuxna satt och “lekte vuxenleken” fika. En av oss vuxna slängde efter en stund iväg den väntade kommentaren. “Ni får gärna gå in på ert rum och busa. Vi hör inte vad vi säger här ute”. Efteråt när jag tänkte på det kom genast 2 tankar i mitt huvud.

1. Varför springer inte vi vuxna runt med barnen? Är det Biologist? Eller är det för att vi blivit inpräntade med nästa tanke:

2. Hur på verkar det busande barn att ständigt få höra kommentarer som “Nu får ni dämpa er” och “Ta det lite lung och ropa inte så mycket”. Med andra ord. Ha inte så förbaskat skoj! Jag tänker genast på vad Micke Gunnarsson säger om at skolan och livet ska var som att gå på Liseberg. Samma som Richard Gerver säger. “Every school should be like Disneyland”. Påverkar det barnen i längden eller skakar dom det av sig det med egna insikten att det är så mycket roligare att inte göra som vi vuxna säger?

Säger vi någonsin saker som:

“Heja heja heja! Kom igen nu! Kan ni inte högre? Spring lite fortare. Ska vi se vem som orkar flest varv runt soffan?”

Alla pratar om vikten av Kreativitet, Lek och Energi. Men hur gör vi vuxna? Föregår vi med gott exempel. Eller är många av oss biologiskt oförmögna att göra det? Själv känner jag mig som ett barn och kan ofta flippa ut helt ibland till många vuxnas stor förvåning. Men även jag känner mig hämmad ibland. Särskilt när det ska göras publikt.

Jag har länge tyckt om att hopp och skutta över saker på stan. Men det känns väldigt pinsamt när någon annan tittar på ibland. Det är mycket lättare när jag gör det med barnen eller när ingen tittar. För när jag drucket ett par öl så känner jag att det spritter i kroppen och att många “spärrar” släpper.

Piska upp lunchen!

Lunch Beat på SSWC 2012

Lunch Beat på #SSWC 2012

För 2 år sen var jag på min först Lunch Beat. Det är när vuxna människor träffas under lunchtimmen helt nyktra och dansar tillsammans. Jag har har alltid älskat att dansa. Jag har alltid gjort det vilt och galet med ett par öl undervästen. Så då när man stod där första gången på lunchen kändes det som vada mot en strid ström innan benen till slut började röra på sig. Nu 2 år senare har jag inga av dessa spärrar kvar. Nu känns det underbart när pulsen stiger och endorfinerna börjar flöda. Jag kan till och med försätta mig i Trance och slå på Hive-Switchen i hjärnan helt nykter nu 🙂

Busa mera! [Live Long and Prosper!]

Så jag tror att även om vi förlorat mycket av att vad det är människa så kan vi ta tillbaka denna energin. Somliga har bara en längre väg att vandra på denna stig. För oss som alla lämnat denna stig är det bara att sätta igång att klättra, hoppa, springa och skutta in i en ny kreativ framtid! Live Long and Prosper!

Busa med dina och andras Barn!
Busa med dig själv!
Busa mera!
Lev längre!
Och Blomstra!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

The Hunt Is On [Here be Pirates] #Blogg100

Here be Pirates! It’s time raise the sails and cast away on a new 100 day journey. This journey takes place in our minds as we travel ever deeper into our minds using the technique called journaling. As I have given the Ninja side of my much love lately it’s now time to give the pirate side some love! I’ve been seeing some the new pirate series Black Sails and I just love the Pirate Myth. We are can all be Pirates and Ninjas and go hunting for a new society together. Find out more by reading below and follow with me on this 100 day journey.

Avast, me hearties! [Let’s go hunting]

#Blogg100 Challenge

#Blogg100 Challenge

It’s that time of year again. Last year we boarded our vessel on January 23 to go on a 100 day journey. This year it’s the March 1. The Vessel I’m referring to is not a physical one, but the mind. And The Journey we are embarking on is the #Blogg100 Challenge.

Why go on a Journey in your mind? By doing journaling in the form of a private diary or a public blog is very helpful for the mind if it’s done in an analytical way. When putting words on your thoughts, you greatly help your brain sorting and evolving them. So while embarking on this Journey my mind also immediately draws on to another adventure …

Black Sails [“Yo ho ho, and a bottle of… rum!”]

As you may already have figured I love Ninjas. I also like the Mythical Pirates from the movies. The whole Ninjas vs. Pirates Meme can be found throughout my blog. So it’s about time that the pirate side got some love as well. My favourite movie as a child was Crimson Pirate with Burt Lancaster. It was the first movie my uncle had taped on his first VHS player back in the eighties and me and my brother watched it countless times together with Star Wars. It was with great anticipation that watched the first episode of HBO’s new series Black Sails. And it did not disappoint. I just love the beautiful setting of Nassau in the Caribbean and mix between fictional and historical narration. It sets me head cap’n spinnin’! And have gotten me playing Gangplank allot more in League of Legends 😉

It may not be the deepest of shows but it has its moments, like the one below. For me personally it’s about what life and ambitions was like back then. How is that different from, how many men in power today, just want to rob the world? Mankind haven’t changed a lot in the last 50 000 years. We are still capable of so much greed and cruelty. This is something we should think about on a daily basis.

– The emperor writes: How should you be?

You should be like a rocky promontory against which the restless surf continuously pounds. It stands fast while the churning sea is lulled to sleep at its feet.

I hear you say – “How unlucky that this should happen to me”. But not at all. Perhaps say instead how lucky I am that I am not broken by what has happened, and I am not afraid of what is about to happen. For the same blow might have stricken any one, but not many who would have absorbed it without capitulation and complaint. — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations read in Black Sails

Nassau - Kingdom of Pirates

Nassau – Kingdom of Pirates – Black Sails

Hunting your own Destiny [“I won’t rest till I see ye hangin’ from the yardarm!”]

What Captain Flint wants in Black Sails, is to hunt down his Destiny as King of Thieves. It maybe isn’t the noblest of quests but it is also about being rid of the of Imperial Leaders of the Greedy Olden World. Nothing is ever that simple.

It’s also about the journey to get there. This is how I intend to use my focus when doing my blogging. Hunting down my Destiny and recording my Journey on the way. Thus reflecting on my motives to get there. What actions is worthy raising me sails for? Who will I want as “me hands” to get there. And what price does me hunting’ come by? So the Pirate Meme is comes to mind after all 🙂

Will you set out on a great adventurous journey with me hunting down our destinies? Life is about the Journey. Let’s make it a good one that may be worthy of a song!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Creative Rainbow Ninjas

Creative Rainbow Ninjas

Creative Rainbow Ninjas

Creative Rainbow Ninjas

There are 7 types of Creative Ninjas. One for every color in the rainbow. You can read more about it in my blog here: What is an Innovation Rainbow Ninja? [We Paint the Universe in Color]. A team of Ninjas can be but together by all or some of the 7 roles. It’s also possible for a ninja to fill several roles. Here are the 7 roles:

1. Master Green – The Dreamer. The Visionary who always challenges what is possible. They bring the energy to make dreams come true. The think big and never stops asking questions like Why? and What If?

2. Master Yellow – The Debater. The Mindbender who finds problems where others finds none. They test your irrational emotional thinking and preconceived notions if they hold up to science and logic.

3. Master Red – The Disruptor. The Explorer who takes a different path and helps the team to see things in a new light or calls out a groupthink plan. They are excellent at finding new opportunities.

4. Master Violet – The Driver. The Lord Commander who pushes the team forward. The one who communicates with other teams or the receiver and customer of the mission. They motivates the team when the excitement wears of and keeps them focus on a goal in sight. They can also keep conflicts from tearing the team apart.

5. Master Blue – The Detailer. The Engineer who controls facts and keeps the rest from making silly mistakes. They find bugs in the system and relentlessly considers every facet where something can break.

6. Master Orange – The Doer. The Warrior who does all the hard work and is in charge executing tasks at a flying rate. They make things ship.

7. Master Indigo – The Coach. The Ranger is the secret invisible Ninja working outside the team gathering intelligence for the rest of the team. Or inspiration for that matter. Tracking ahead or spying from a distance. Or coaching the team without interfering too much.

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Smaug the Grandmaster [Sherlock the Maestro]

What are your expert skills? Now and in the future? What will you spend your days on mastering? As you can see, this is an area that I’m very interested in. I will now give you a run-through about how you can become a Master of your own life, skills and passions. What insights can Sherlock Holmes, Smaug and Tauriel give us on the quest of living? — Life can be made more social. We can have more intent in our thoughts and actions. The Brain is the most astonishing invention of the Universe. Start treating it with the Awe it inspires and it will start giving back to you. Life is about making a flourishing society here on Planet Earth and we can become skilled experts in helping it along. Below I will give my thoughts on the subject. Do share your thoughts too below, in the comments or find me at my next social event and discuss it. 

Here be Dragons!

Becoming a Master Expert [Skill Up Your Life]

Smaug the Grandmaster

Smaug the Grandmaster – Greed-King Unparalleled and Death-Dealer Extraordinaire 

We all now that it takes time to master a skill. And Malcolm Gladwell’s 10.000 hour rule is jet an arbitrary number for becoming an Expert. Some take less and some take more. I went and saw The Grandmaster last year and it certainly takes more than 10.000 hours of training to become a Grandmaster let alone a Master in Kung Fu. Yet if you break down any skill in small pieces you can become a novice in every skill-piece in just 20 hours according to Josh Kaufman.

So I went to see The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug or as I will call it The Hobbit: Grandmagistra Tauriel & Grandmaster Smaug. What did I think of the Movie? On a personal level this an awesome movie. The best Visual Movie I’ve seen. The fairy tale feeling is nothing short of a masterpiece. You are actually there with them in Midgard. Witch brings me to my first observation:

The Master Team [Together We Can Build Everything Ever]

To make a movie like this and the first trilogy you not only need a super team of experts and masters in each and every skill required. When you put them all together in the right teams you create something more than the sum of the whole. The emerging outputs of such a creative teams is just amazing. No-one can argue against that. In-movie wise we have the Dwarfs. What they have created in Erebor is also a fictional masterpiece of engineering. When lead by a strong vision where everyone has put their heart into their own master craft, there is no limit to what we can create together.

That’s why I’m advocating using storytelling so much to help shape the future into what we want it to be. Soap Operas and Reality TV maybe great ways to stimulate our unquenchable thirst of our social brains to get more social stimuli? But when it comes to building common visions for our future, not so much. Then we need stories with allot more philosophical thoughts going into them.

Then we have the fictional Master teams as well. From Tauriel and Legolas in the The Hobbit to Sherlock Holmes and John Watson in Sherlock. Both connected through Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman.

“When your art fails, make better art”
“It’s never too late to redefine self-control, to change long-ingrained habits, and to do the work you’re capable of”
Seth Godin

So why does it take more than just the 10 000 hours, to become great at something? If it was easy everyone would make Masterpieces like this. And even this movie I find too lacking in its philosophical parts. How should we all get better in our trades? If we are to make better art like Seth Godin says we better get good at it. I will try to find out how.

Tauriel the Champion [What Is Time Well Spent?]

Tauriel

Grandmagistra Tauriel – Wicked Bow-Woman and World-Thinker Fantastique 

The stunts that Tauriel and Legolas pulls when fighting the Orcs in The Hobbit is very spectacular indeed. But when you think about it, what a human grandmaster learns in 40 years of training, is nothing compared to how much training a 600 year old Elf must have. Lets say 4 hours a day and it will be something around 200 000 hours. Then you’re expected to be able to do the stunts they are doing without even blinking twice. They are able to become true champions of any craft or art of their choosing. And who wouldn’t want that? Do you?

What about Phil in Groundhog Day? How long does it take him to master all the skills in the end? Harold Ramis responds to a calculation by saying he spends at least 30 to 40 years in the Groundhog-verse.

Rita: It would take a year to get good at this.
Phil: No. Six months. Four to five hours a day and you’d be an expert.
Rita: Is this what you do with eternity? – Groundhog Day

So what is time well spent? Who are to judge what skills are worth spending a lifetime on nourishing. What are the jury saying about becoming an expert in anything other than a traditional craft? And what skills should you devote an entire lifetime on to become a master and eventually a Grandmaster [Grandmagistra]?

Mad Passions [Sample Your Skills]

Just practicing a skill over and over ain’t gonna cut it either. Yes for you to master a skill you will need to have a passion for it or develop a passion for it along the way. And passion alone is not going to cut it either. Cal Newport gives a great speech about it here: “Follow Your Passion” Is Bad Advice. He is just putting a spin on it. Of course it’s great to have one or many passions. But in order for you to become an expert you need to have the knack for it as well or you will be fighting a very uphill battle.

So how does this help you and me? For one thing if we are to become masters of our craft and art we there is probably not too many shortcuts around the hours put in. Practice makes perfect, and perfect practice makes you even more perfect. Then it becomes even more important what you pick to master. No, the agony. What should I master? Here trying many small skills and learning them in just 20 hours can come very handy. You need to sample many skills and passions to find some that fits in both camps. Either a passion that you may seem yo have the knack for or a talent that you can begin to love.

You should try to sample many skills. It’s very helping and insightful and it gives you a better perspective on the whole spectrum of human endeavor. On the road to mastery do explore many branches in your skill tree. Should you find yourself on a dead-end you can easily go back and follow another branch.

Does that mean that there is both a long and a shorter road to mastery? It probably does. With the right focus and learning-techniques you can learn a skill or a craft much faster. Leaving room over for other skills to learn as well or becoming even better at something. Also worth taking into considerations when learning something is this pillars I will talk about in a coming blog-post: Mental Condition, Technique, Motivation, Social Setting and Fun.

Some people will always need help. That doesn’t mean they are not worth helping – Meera Reed, Game of Thrones

But don’t be afraid of cultivating some mad passions that you posses. As long as they are not to harmful they may do you and society some good. We are in such of dire need of more originals in the world. Serendipity may take you a long way. Just try to be mindful of what you are doing and keep and open dialogue about it with yourself and maybe a mentor or two.

Take deep breath and take a sip of your favourite beverage.
Look yourself in the mirror…
Then comment and narrate your own thoughts and actions out loud. — Lord Sillion

Because most of us should not be left alone to our own devices going blind into the future. We are all in dire need of social coaching within our various tribes that we belong to. Try asking for help when choosing what path you should trod down and what skills and passions you should follow. And DO sidestep your predestined track. At least ask yourself when staring into the mirror: “Who am I and what am I doing?“. We can all use a little more self narration in our lives 🙂

How Do You Get A Rock’n’Roll Mind? [Start Rockin’ And Rolling It!]

Mad Genius Sherlock

Maestro Sherlock Holmes – Deduction Superhero and Self-Narrator Spectacular — John Watson – Friend Supreme

Dr. John Watson: Am I pretty?
Sherlock Holmes: Beauty is a construct based on childhood impressions, influences, and role models.

The great team behind Smaug and Bilbo fittingly began their Team building carer in Sherlock. The breathtaking series from BBC about a modern Sherlock Holmes. Sherlock also being a kind of Master. From the evil mind of Smaug to the Master thinker Sherlock Holmes, Benedict Cumberbatch transforms them both into the pure essence of Storytelling Master Art. He also gives being smart a new rock’n’roll face. In episode 3 of season 3: His Last Vow we are even giving a wink of the connection between Sherlock and Smaug:

Sherlock: A dragon slayer. Is that what you think of me?
Mycroft: No. It’s what you think of yourself.

Mycroft: MI6. They want to place you back into Eastern Europe. An undercover assignment that will prove fatal to you in, I think, about six months.
Sherlock: Then why don’t you want me to take it?
Mycroft: It’s tempting. But on balance, you have more utility closer to home.
Sherlock: Utility. How do I have utility?
Mycroft: Here there be dragons.

Here be Dragons is the reference to go on an unexplored quest into an unknown future. An endeavor for the whole of the human race to embark upon. Killing myths and superstition with science and knowledge. Who will join me in the this quest to be Dragon slayers?

So how do you get a Rock’n’Roll mind?

When we then think about Robert Kegan’s thoughts about the Self-Transforming Mind. Then it becomes hard to grasp to what insights, an old Elf or an even older Dragon like Smaug, has to come to. Because a mind needs constant stimuli the become smarter. So what has all the slumbering done to Smaug? Not to mention that he spends his time in solitude. Maybe only Madness lies there. Is it no wonder that he likes the mind game with Bilbo so much?

I am almost tempted to let you take it, if only to watch Oakenshield suffer. Watch it destroy him, watch it corrupt his heart and drive him mad… But I think not. I think our little game ends here. So tell me, Thief, how do you choose to die? — Smaug

Elf and Dragon brains may also be different from our human brains. Then it’s easier for us to grasp “a mere mortal” like Sherlock Holmes. Although a little far-fetched we all find the mind of Sherlock Holmes very fascinating. He is a master in some areas but a novice in others. But he is still a human we can relate to despite of being a highly functional sociopath. That’s why he is the star and not his even smarter brother Mycroft. Par that with the humorous and thought-provoking story of Sherlock and it’s now wonder the series is such a hit. This is fiction at it’s best. It makes us feel, laugh and most importantly think about the world.

Mycroft Holmes

Mycroft Holmes – Political Master-Genius and Puppeteer Exquisitness

On top of all I discussed above we all also need intellectual stimulation, rest, exercise and a safe social environment to make our brains smarter. I will go into that in a coming post. To give you a heads up here is a teaser with Dan Hurley, in which he talks about: Can You Make Yourself Smarter?

Well it turns out you can in so many ways 🙂

Start Rocking and Rolling your mind. Give it a shake now and then. Change perspective to get another view of the world and yourself. And get your heart pumping and your blood rushing. It turns out your brain runs on blood filled with sugar and oxygen. Give someone a hug to get the Oxytocin flowing. Stare someone in the eye and give them praise. Connect socially with everyone around you.

Let us all challenge our minds and bodies to become smarter, better versions of ourselves!
Get a great coach or mentor. Narrate your own story out loud to yourself.
We can all become Grand Maestros of Life!

Here be Dragons

Here be Dragons

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja