The Duality of Man [Can we work together?]

Working together is as important as ever. So I dug up my old post about Jonathan Haidt’s research and book about why we are able to cooperate in the first place and build large societies that we have done today. It’s all being able switch the mind to a state where it transcends its own self-interest. Jonathan calls this ability the Hive Switch. The 3 most common ways to switch this state on is by doing some of the follow things together:
1. Experience awe of nature.
2. Dancing intensely to club music or at a rave.
3. Physically triggering it with drugs like psilocybin.

So do find in yourself to reach out to others and build connections that will transform our society to the better.

Here is his full summary on the Hive Switch chapter:

“When I began writing The Happiness Hypothesis, I believed that happiness came from within, as Buddha and the Stoic philosophers said thousand of years ago. You’ll never make the world conform to your wishes, so focus on changing yourself and your desires. But my the time I finished writing, I had changed my mind: Happiness comes from between. It comes from getting the right relationships between yourself and others, yourself and your work, and yourself and something larger than yourself.

Once you understand our dual nature, including our groupish overlay, you can see why happiness comes from between. We evolved to live in groups. Our minds were designed not only to helps win the competition within our groups, but also to help us unite with those in our group to win completion across groups.

In this chapter I presented the hive hypothesis, which states that human beings are conditional hive creatures. We have the ability (under special circumstances) to transcend self-interest and lose ourselves (temporally and ecstatically) in something larger than ourselves. I call this ability the Hive Switch. The Hive Switch is another way os stating Durkheim’s idea that we are Homo duplex; we live most of our lives in the ordinary (profane) world, but we achieve our greatest joys in those brief moments of transit into the sacred world, in which we become “simply a part of the whole”.

I describe three common ways in which people flip the Hive Switch: Awe of Nature, Durkheimian drugs and raves. I describe recent findings about oxytocin and mirror neurones that suggest that they are the stuff of which the Hive Switch are made. Oxytocin bounds people to their groups, not all of humanity. Mirror neurones help people empathise with others, but particularly those that share their Moral Matrix.

It would be nice to believe that we humans were deigned to love everyone unconditionally. Nice, but rather unlikely from an evolutionary perspective. Parochial love [Love within groups] amplified by similarity, a sense of shared fate, and the suppression of free riders, may the most we can accomplish.”

Happiness comes from between

Happiness comes from between

Can we work together? [Homo Duplex]

We are all stuck here for a while. So let’s try to work it out

I have been listening to The Groupish Gene: Hive psychology and the origins of morality and religion from The RSA with Jonathan Haidt and reading his 2 books ‘The Happiness Hypothesis‘ and ‘The Righteous Mind‘. He tells us why we do things in groups and why we are born to co-operate.

Thanks to a single mutation in our jaw muscle, around 2.4 million years ago, The human species where capable of growing a much larger skull and thus leaving place for a larger brain. With this brain we where able start evolving complex social structures and more advanced groupish behavior.

We became the Tribal and Story Telling Chimp.

Pan Narrans – [The Story Telling Chimp]

We are not a bee hive and we are not The Borg. Whoever we are a groupish species that are 90% chimp and 10% hive-mind. We are Pan narrans, the storytelling ape. It’s a term by Terry Pratchett, Jack Cohen and Ian Stewart they coined in the book Science of Discworld II. Our brains is a storytelling and pattern recognition system that acts like everything is part of a story. I talk more about Storytelling in this blog Your Story 🙂

We are all Groupish vehicles for human genes. We became able to use a set of shared intentionality that later developed into a shared Moral Matrix for the group.

This Moral Matrices then enable each group to elect something sacred for the group that we could circle around and the defend in a very irrational way. This sacralization bound us together and made us blind to rational evidence.

The Hive Switch [Let’s go raving]

We humans have the ability (under special circumstances) to transcend self-interest and lose ourselves (temporarily and ecstatically) in something larger than ourselves. Haidt calls this ability The Hive Switch. This leads to a sense of shared fate. This is present in the PERMA model of what makes us flourish by Martin Seligman.

We think that this Hive-Switch is made out of Oxytocin (witch I talk about before) and Mirror Neurons. It can be triggered in many ways but some of the easiest is experience Awe of Nature together or becoming in a state of Trance when dancing together to Trance music at a club or at a rave.

The Elephant and The Rider

The best mental model and metaphor for our brain is that of a very large elephant that makes up most parts of our brain that are in a constant debate of what decisions make. Then we have the small rider that is our conscious thought and reasoning.

The Elephant stands for our intuition that makes constant and instantaneous decisions. The Rider then works like Press secretary that makes up a story that correlates and justifies with the decision made by The Elephant. With the help of this Press secretary, we are able to lie and cheat often, and then cover it up so effectively that we convince even ourselves. Dan Ariely talks of why we are so good at lying in his new book The Honest Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone – Especially Ourselves

The Elephant itself consist of many small parts of the brain that is in constant “conflict” with each others on what decisions to make. David Eagleman explains this great in his book Incognito.

The Rider is there to guide the Elephant where to go and what decisions to make but the Elephant and it’s many parts are in charge.

Intuition comes first and Strategic Reasoning second

Reasoning has evolved to help us engage in arguments, persuasion and manipulation in the context of discussion with other people. It helps us look good in the social context of the group and help further our reputation and agenda within the group. But it also help us defend our group and its moral beliefs. All this has been a key to our survival and success here on earth.

“We are obsessively concerned about what others think of us, although much of the concern is unconscious and invisible to us”

We as individuals are very good at finding evidence that supports the view and standpoint we are already holding, mostly for intuitive reasons. That’s why it’s so hard to look to the other side and find evidence against your own point of view. Other people do us this favor so much better for us, as we do for them. This is why we should always be vary for an individual’s ability to reason. It is much better done in a group. But not just any arbitrary group.

It’s important that any group whose goal is to find any truth or make any important decisions to have an intellectual and ideological diversity.

If you want to change another group or individual the easiest way is to change the path the Elephant is traveling on not the Elephant itself. This is discussed in the book Switch in more detail. Many of advice found in the book How to Win Friends and Influence People from 1936 are still very good advice into how to change another group or person:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people
2. Smile or even better Hug!
3. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely

Building a better world together

What steps can we take make use of this knowledge and build a better world together?

1. Understand Sacralization
If you want to understand another group follow their sacredness. Recognize that they have something sacred that you don’t really understand and that they will defend with blind faith.

2. Talk to the Elephant
If you want to change someones mind talk to the Elephant first. Start by bringing up some points of commonality and establish some way of trust. Then when you bring up matters of your different Moral Matrices. Begin by giving praise or give a sincere expression of interest. Then build on from there to a more common ground.

3. Moralize Demonization
Stop demonizing another group for their believes and sacred values. We are all prone to fall victim to the myth of Pure Evil. Where we self feel “Victim” to some form of injustice. So when you see or hear someone demonizing something, politely remind them that they are demonizing and that doesn’t lead anywhere.

4. Groupishness must be Managed
It’s easy for our groupish behavior to get out of control. Therefore we must help each other to monitoring our behavior so that it applies to a Moral Matrix we all can agree on.

All groups that seeks out some form of truth or affects other groups in any way must have both intellectual and ideological diversity.

5. The Earth Tribe?
Is there a way to unite all humanity on earth as to create a global human tribe? The only way we see this happening is by us being under attack from a common enemy like a global virus outbreak or some other global catastrophe.

In the meantime all we can hope for is a new emergent network society with many small groups pulling in the same direction. Here Social Media comes out a as great tool for bringing all those groups together 🙂

We are obsessively concerned about what others think of us

We are obsessively concerned about what others think of us

Moral Matrix of the Mind

We are deeply intuitive creature whose gut feeling drives our strategic reasoning. This makes it difficult – but not impossible – to connect with those who live in another Moral Matrix of the Mind. This is exactly like in the movie The Matrix. We live in different worlds in our minds.

We are all stuck here for a while. So let’s try to work it out

@LordSillion

Holistic Thinking Ninja

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Invest in Your Future #Blogg100

#047 [XLVII]
What can you do every day? [Theseus Day]

Find many of the Tips here under Journaling.

MuggShot

Today started with my own session on WebCoast. I have collected all my insights from this and my other 2 blogs. From them I have selected some that will make you a better person. More Cretive, Thinking about your future, Mindful about the Present. Getting up and Exercise more.

You can see my whole session i Swedish in this 3 parts on Bambuser:

Del 1
Del 2
Del 3

Increase your Creativity and and become a better Version of yourself

Here are my blogs that Cover some of the Topics

Increase your Intelligence and Challenge Yourself
Oxytocin
Befriend everyone
Active – Constructive Relations
MoonWatch and Stargaze together
Teach our children and adults with Storytelling

Be mindful about what is important for you
Become a better version of you
Life is a Game
Fail, Adapt and Iterate
Use Moral Reminders to lie less
Have Fiero Moments

End of the Road

The Best session today was from Dr PO and Johan Lange. It’s about Earth Society version 3.0. See it blow in Swedish. We have come to the end of the old society. There are 3 inevitable ways we can change to a new one. Preferable The Networked Society. One thing is sure: We have come to the end of the road. We are are either learning how to fly or we are going to crash hard. The Change Scenarios are:

1. Catastrophe
2. Crusade
3. Small iterating steps

Theseus Day

Theseus Day is the day in Contimuum that started it all. With out spoiling it I can say that it triggers all kind thoughts around Fate, Destiny, Free Will and a deterministic Universe. If You haven’t seen the show I can really recommend it if you can find it. It’s a little bit cheesy and as usual in most Science Fiction there is very little talk about Social Media and The Network Society.

Anyhow. Referring to  the 3 scenarios above. There will come a day that you will instantly know that this is the day that a big change will begin to happen. What are your thoughts about it?

This summer the 3 of us will go to Almedalen and set up shop. There we will bring more light on the subject. Changing Sweden and the education of it’s new citizens.

@LordSillion

Social Bonding #Blogg100

#076 [LXXVI]
Playing games face to face together [Spela spel ihop, ansikte mot ansikte]

Idag har vi varit ett stort gäng på Sverok Västs lokal Spelets hus i Göteborg och spelat brädspel. Denna livsstil som ligger mig varmast om hjärtat. Som jag håller som min heliga grej. Är väldigt social och varmt välkomnande. Alla som kommer dit blir varmt motagna. Man parar ihop sig i grupper och spelar del olika typer av spel som passar en. Jag är där med några av mina äldsta och bästa vänner. Det är verkligen som Jane McGonigal säger.

När man spelar spel ihop uppstår en fantastisk social bonding.

Idag blev det 4 av mina nya favoritspel. Terra Mystica, Spartacus, Key Flower och Clash of Cultures. 2 stora gäng ville prova att spela det gamla spelet Diplomacy från 1959. Ett bräde var överens om att det kändes som ett väldig gammalt spel. Idag känns Imperial och Game of Thrones mycket bättre i denna kategorin. Många brädspelare där är med i föreningen GoBo.

@LordSillion

LordSillion, Champ, Samuel och Ölme

LordSillion, Champ, Samuel och Ölme spelar Clash of Cultures

2 Bräden Diplpomacy

2 Bräden Diplpomacy

Final standing in Terra Mystica 139 Darklings, 125, Dwarfs, 94 Swarmlings

Final standing in Terra Mystica 139 Darklings, 125, Dwarfs, 94 Swarmlings

KeyFlower

Logistik-pussel är bara förnamnet i KeyFlower

Blood and Backstabbing in Spartacus

Blood and Backstabbing in Spartacus

Inspiration Loop #Blogg100

#097 [XCVII]
Vad får du inspiration från? [Where do you get your inspiration?]

Skrivkramp? [Writers cramp?] Soffpotatis? [Couchpotato?] Stuck in a Human Trap?

Name Your Excuse!

I saw this classic XKCD strip on top of my Tumblr flow:

Our Own Personal Matrix

We are all stuck inside our heads with no way of knowing what kind “Matrix” we are living in. For Real! But the what does the word “Real” mean anyway? What is Real? 😉

Which leads me to to the image

FreeCheese

There Free Beer in a Human Trap

I saw this sign earlier this week at a “Free” event. I was there with @JohanLange and @MikuMaria at It Innovations Expo 2013. And even if it we didn’t pay it’s was far from free. We invested lot of time and energy to be there. And it was worth it.

My instant reaction to the sign was:

“There is Free Beer in a Human Trap”

This reflection comes from Dan Ariely’s speech “Free Beer: The truth about dishonesty” about “How We Lie to Everyone – Especially Ourselves”

“The Truth” is such curious Human concept. The Truth can never be told but a mere “Truthy Tale” of what happened in the past. This is from my blog about Your Story

“Truth is a battle of perceptions. People only see what they’re prepared to confront. It’s not what you look at that matters but what you see. And when different perceptions battle against one another, the truth has a way of getting lost. And the monsters find a way of getting out.” — Emily Thorne

We lie when we think we can get away with it and when it will not cost us any Reputation with the group. We also lie because our StoryTelling brains can only tell stories. Truthy or not.

We share for Reputaion

Here is Johan Lange’s Bambuser recording of the free speech. He does not agree with the speaker nor do I.

We share things on the internet because we think that it will gives us a good reputation and good status. This is what most of our big social brains occupy much time with. Sharing for free isn’t that either. Sometimes we invest considerable time and effort into something we want to share and give away. We just hope this investment is worth it.

“Vi vill bli sedda, hörda och bekräftade. Alla människor fiskar efter Feedback.” — @JohanLange

We all want to appear to pull our weight in the groups we are living in. We will gladly do “free” work and share stuff on the internet for this reason. We also do this because it makes us feel productive according to the principles of PERMA.

Brain -> Reality -> The Truth -> Reputation -> Free Work -> Feedback -> Brain

And Yes. I have seen an episode of Revenge this evening to jump-start my brain.

“They say the best laid plans often go awry
Because no matter how detailed the preparation
A plan will always have weak point
And there will always be those looking to exploit it
To doom a plan to failure
And the perpetrator along with it

Every plan has a fatal flaw
Sometimes it’s the heart
Even in those who are supposed to be the most careful
But a careful nature doesn’t always ensure success
When a plan is built on an unstable foundation
Failure is not only a possibility — It’s a certainty”
— Emily Thorne in Revenge, {Sabotage}

Well my plan certainly wasn’t to stay up this late to write this. But I wouldn’t call it a failure.

Where does YOU get your inspiration from? Please write it below 🙂

/@LordSillion

Är du Produktiv? #Blogg100

#098 [XCVIII]
Vad motiverar dig? [When do you feel productive?]

När kände du dig produktiv senast?
Vad producerade du då?
Var det värt det?

Detta är frågor som Jane McGonigal ställer i ett jättebra tal för 2 år sen (se längst ner). Det var då det hände! The Dragon Ninja inside me awoke. It had been asleep for many years. Jag började jaga runt på Internet efter mer. Jag började hitta en massa inspirerade saker om hur vi som människor fungerar.

Dragon Ninja

Dragon Ninja

Vad är det då som gör att vi mår bra och känner oss produktiva? Både Jane McGonigal och Martin Seligman hade kommit fram till ungefär samma saker i deras forskning.

Jane har forskat på varför det är så skoj att spela spel. Att spela spel är bland det mest produktiva vi kan göra och massor har med positiva effekt när vi gör det tillsammans. Vi litar mer på dom vi spelat ihop med och det binder samman gruppen. Det kan bota depressioner och kan till och med hjälpa ett helt folk igenom svält. Hon förklara det bra i filmen nedan.

Dessa mekanismer används även i Gamification för att triggar samma belöningar som vi känner när vi spelar ett bra spel.

Martin är en världsledande forskare inom positiv psykologi och tagit fram modellen för vad det som får att oss att blomstra som människor. Han kallar det PERMA. Han berättar bra om det i sitt RSA tal.

Vad är PERMA?

PERMA är dom fem saker så får dig att må bra som är helt skilda från varandra men förekommer ofta i kombination.

P – Positive Emotions – Positiva känslor –– Vi gillar alla att känna positiva känslor. Dom kan triggas alla typer av händelser och upplevelser.  Det är känslor som glädje, frid, tacksamhet, tillfredsställelse, tillit, stolthet, behag, inspiration, hopp, nyfikenhet eller kärlek. Det är viktigt att bejaka dessa känslor och unna dig själv att känna dessa.

E – Engagement (or flow) – Engagemang –– Vi känner oss engagerade  när vi blir helt involverad  i det vi gör. När en uppgift är precis lagom utmanande. Vi kan även hamna i “Flow” när vi glömmer tiden helt och blir uppslukade av det vi gör.

R – Relationships – Relationer –– Att vara social med andra är själva kärnan i vad det är att vara människa. Det är när vi har bra relationer med dom nära oss som vi är den bästa versionen av oss själva. Samarbete och vänlig-konkurrens tar fram det bästa i oss.

M – Meaning – Mening –– Mening kommer när vi skapar berättelse om våra liv som känns större än oss själva. När vi är på väg mot ett stort eller episkt mål. Det kan uppstå när vi tillbringar vår tid med något som känns heligt för oss eller gruppen.

A – Accomplishments – Fullbordan –– Att fullborda och avsluta ett mål eller delmål är något som alltid får oss att må bra. Att känna att vi blir bättre på något ger oss också en känsla fullbordan. Eller när vi får bra feedback och återkoppling med det vi håller på med.

Designa det goda livet

Med detta i åtanke kan vi börja att designa ett bättre liv och ett nytt samhälle där vi lever och mår bra tillsammans.

Och spela gärna lite mer spel tillsammans. Det gör att vi mår bra 🙂

Gaming Together

Gaming Together

/@LordSillion

Jane McGonigal On Productivity

Why are we so groupish?

Can we work together?

We are all stuck here for a while. So let’s try to work it out

I have been listening to The Groupish Gene: Hive psychology and the origins of morality and religion from The RSA with Jonathan Haidt and reading his 2 books ‘The Happiness Hypothesis‘ and ‘The Righteous Mind‘. He tells us why we do things in groups and why we are born to co-operate.

Thanks to a single mutation in our jaw muscle, around 2.4 million years ago, The human species where capable of growing a much larger skull and thus leaving place for a larger brain. With this brain we where able start evolving complex social structures and more advanced groupish behavior.

We became the Tribal and Story Telling Chimp.

Pan Narrans – The Story Telling Chimp

We are not a bee hive and we are not The Borg. Whoever we are a groupish species that are 90% chimp and 10% hive-mind. We are Pan narrans, the storytelling ape. It’s a term by Terry Pratchett, Jack Cohen and Ian Stewart they coined in the book Science of Discworld II. Our brains is a storytelling and pattern recognition system that acts like everything is part of a story. I talk more about Storytelling in this blog Your Story 🙂

We are all Groupish vehicles for human genes. We became able to use a set of shared intentionality that later developed into a shared Moral Matrix for the group.

This Moral Matrices then enable each group to elect something sacred for the group that we could circle around and the defend in a very irrational way. This sacralization bound us together and made us blind to rational evidence.

The Hive Switch

We humans have the ability (under special circumstances) to transcend self-interest and lose ourselves (temporarily and ecstatically) in something larger than ourselves. Haidt calls this ability The Hive Switch. This leads to a sense of shared fate. This is present in the PERMA model of what makes us flourish by Martin Seligman.

We think that this Hive-Switch is made out of Oxytocin (witch I talk about before) and Mirror Neurons. It can be triggered in many ways but some of the easiest is experience Awe of Nature together or becoming in a state of Trance when dancing together to Trance music.

The Elephant and The Rider

The best mental model and metaphor for our brain is that of a very large elephant that makes up most parts of our brain that are in a constant debate of what decisions make. Then we have the small rider that is our conscious thought and reasoning.

The Elephant stands for our intuition that makes constant and instantaneous decisions. The Rider then works like Press secretary that makes up a story that correlates and justifies with the decision made by The Elephant. With the help of this Press secretary, we are able to lie and cheat often, and then cover it up so effectively that we convince even ourselves. Dan Ariely talks of why we are so good at lying in his new book The Honest Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone – Especially Ourselves

The Elephant itself consist of many small parts of the brain that is in constant “conflict” with each others on what decisions to make. David Eagleman explains this great in his book Incognito.

The Rider is there to guide the Elephant where to go and what decisions to make but the Elephant and it’s many parts are in charge.

Intuition comes first and Strategic Reasoning second

Reasoning has evolved to help us engage in arguments, persuasion and manipulation in the context of discussion with other people. It helps us look good in the social context of the group and help further our reputation and agenda withing the group. But it also help us defend our group and it’s moral beliefs. All this has been a key to our survival and success here on earth.

“We are obsessively concerned about what others think of us, although much of the concern is unconscious and invisible to us”

We as individuals are very good at finding evidence that supports the view and standpoint we are already holding, mostly for intuitive reasons. That’s why it’s so hard to look to the other side and find evidence against your own point of view. Other people do us this favor so much better for us, as we do for them. This is why we should always be vary for individuals ability to reason. It is much better done in a group. But not just any arbitrary group.

It’s important that any group whose goal is to find any truth or make any important decisions to have an intellectual and ideological diversity.

If you want to change another group or individual the easiest way is to change the path the Elephant is traveling on not the Elephant itself. This is discussed in the book Switch in more detail. Many of advice found in the book How to Win Friends and Influence People from 1936 are still very good advice into how to change another group or person:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people
2. Smile or even better Hug!
3. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely

Building a better world together

What steps can we take make use of this knowledge and build a better world together?

1. Understand Sacralization
If you want to understand another group follow their sacredness. Recognize that they have something sacred that you don’t really understand and that they will defend with blind faith.

2. Talk to the Elephant
If you want to change someones mind talk to the Elephant first. Start by bringing up some points of commonality and establish some way of trust. Then when you bring up matters of your different Moral Matrices. Begin by giving praise or give a sincere expression of interest. Then build on from there to a more common ground.

3. Moralize Demonization
Stop demonizing another group for their believes and sacred values. We are all prone to fall victim to the myth of Pure Evil. Where we self feel “Victim” to some form of injustice. So when you see or hear someone demonizing something, politely remind them that they are demonizing and that doesn’t lead anywhere.

4. Groupishness must be Managed
It’s easy for our groupish behavior to get out of control. Therefore we must help each other to monitoring our behavior so that it applies to a Moral Matrix we all can agree on.

All groups that seeks out some form of truth or affects other groups in any way must have both intellectual and ideological diversity.

5. The Earth Tribe?
Is there a way to unite all humanity on earth as to create a global human tribe? The only way we see this happening is by us being under attack from a common enemy like a global virus outbreak or some other global catastrophe.

In the meantime all we can hope for is a new emergent network society with many small groups pulling in the same direction. Here Social Media comes out a as great tool for bringing all those groups together 🙂

Moral Matrix of the Mind

We are deeply intuitive creature whose gut feeling drives our strategic reasoning. This makes it difficult – but not impossible – to connect with those who live in another Moral Matrix of the Mind. This is exactly like in the movie The Matrix. We live in different worlds in our minds.

/Michael Sillion
Follow me on Twitter: @LordSillion

We are all stuck here for a while. So let’s try to work it out


Jonathan Haidt from TED 2012